hairdog, W is unhappy, mostly just with herself. And she is NOT going to give anymore than she has to. Everything will be turned around on you...as someone said in a previous post, her problems become your problems. One of your posts said that she will almost always say no when asked to ML. Now really...how much more insensitive can you get? And being intimate on SOME level is terribly important to sustaining a good R with someone...and twice a year is not normal. NOT. My friends who are in this predicament are not happy. My friends who have a mutually satisfying sexual R who meet in the middle are at the very least fairly happy, and no that does not mean they swing from the ceiling fan everynight...just normal stuff between them. She has a hangup about sex. She needs to understand that sex=intimacy for you. Perhaps she doesn't want to understand and is digging her heels in.
