Quote: I fear our marriage, no matter how good it is, will never be good enough for you, and neither will I.
How on earth does he answer this? My wife has said this to me probably a dozen times, and there seems to be something in the LD personality that goes basically like this:
"Our current situation is bad, But you say you want it to get better. You've told me what YOU need for it to get better, And you've even asked me what I need from YOU. But any improvement I make to give you more of what you need, Because I know how far you'd ULTIMATELY like this to go, I feel like it won't be good enough. And therefore I can never truly make you happy, no matter how much I improve the in the desire/LM dept."
Isn't that pretty much what she's thinking, Hairdoggie?
I have tried to respond that ANY improvement in affection and desire -- even WITHOUT LM -- would be a big improvement, and would make me happy, and that I also KNOW that we can get back to an earlir place, because she has been that HD before. But it usually turns back into the circular "logic" outlined above.
