Thanks, all. Here's my take. I wrote that e-mail in the spirit of conciliation. I think it accurately portrays both the struggles we have gone through, and my personal hope for a better future.
She, as Corri noted, turned it around, made it all about her, acts the martyr, the long-suffering wife and says that no matter how good it can be, it won't be good enough for Hairdog. I don't think a reasonable person could have observed us over the last year and said it has been a good year for the relationship. Yes, we have had times where we have worked together, etc., but the year has been peppered with many fights/arguments, and the threat of divorce.
I want to change that. I want a better year. But she is saying this is all in my head, that I will never be happy. Her self-image was probably somewhat wounded by my mention of "hurt and distance" in the last line, but I thought it important to tell her that I forgive her for that. Surely she cannot think that she has done nothing to hurt me? She threatened to call the police on me and tell them I was abusing her, just to get me out of the bedroom!
Sorry, I'm just really disappointed. I sent the email and was hoping for even a simple "I love you, too" back from her.
