HD, I think you've been presented with two very distinct ways of looking at this. Nop's way is about listening to what your wife says, acknowledging that there is information that is useful in it, and keeping the conversation going where both people are sharing their views and attempting to understand one another. Someone needs to start the ball rolling in that direction.
Corri's and CE's views will continue the adversarial relationship because Ms HD didn't say her point in just the right way or deal solely with your issues. She actually brought up some of her POV as well.
You pick, HD...continued adversarial relationship or conversation. Do you want the validation that your wife is just being manipulative and has no valid POV or do you want to start solving your problem?
