One thing I did/do with my H is to ask a lot of questions in order to get him going, as well as to learn more about his sexuality. You know, for someone who professed to just want a better sex life, I was REALLY unaware of what he liked and preferred. I think I can be a bad listener sometimes, and the fact that his style doesn't do much for me doesn't help! His style still doesn't appeal to me but what I do is this: I will say "Would you rather see me naked or in a sexy nightie?" Now I know the answer but I like hearing his words. Then when he says, Naked, I will say "tell me what you like about it" Open ended things like that, that encourage him to talk to me. This inevitably gets me going (good ol words of aff) and gets him going, too.
Other times, I will say "I know you don't really care for this stuff in real life, but let me tell you about a fantasy I have......" That way it takes off any pressure that he might feel. He sometimes thinks if I share a fantasy with him that I am puttin the screws to him to make it HAPPEN. Really, I'm just trying to get things revved up.
Well gotta run. Listen, don't you worry about me being missing from your thread. I am NEVER having this baby, I have realized.
