As you know I am now a pusher of "self-revelation" so I think your convo was good.
Quote: ( Has an insight). Yes, you are entitled to turn me down, but it's the way you go about it that sets me off...you get all tense and angry, and I feel so hurt
Why did you feel hurt? The obvious reason is that your H rejected you in a jerky manner. But what was the thought that was making you cry? I doubt that you were just thinking "My H is a jerk.". You were probably having some more complicated thought involving feelings of vulnerability, love and loss. Because I love to give advice that I have a hard time following myself, I will suggest that the next time you are hurt by rejection, you should give voice to the thoughts that are making you cry even though that will probably make you feel incredibly vulnerable. "Holding on to yourself" doesn't have to be a silent process.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
