Deb, Sorry to hear that he is allowed himself to get sucked back into OW's seedy world.
I have been reading your thread, though don't have much time to post to you. Plus, you seem to have it under control, even now.
Re: your changes. Boy I think I would tell him in no uncertain terms that these changes are YOURS, you have worked hard to make them and you will not allow anyone to tell you what or who you are. That if he chooses to believe otherwise, that is his prerogative.
He does have a curious way of believing that he is powerless in this whole situation.
