IMHO, No. I don't think that you should send this one. I do like the first pharagraph and the last, with the exception of the last sentence. Because, Deb, it's not up to him to make the choice...the choice is and always has been yours. And somehow, given what I know of your H, I think he is waiting for you to make the choice.
I just think that you need a firmer approach. More tough love and less self-criticism. ???
