Thanks Sage, I'm thinking i need to back off and not push the issue, but I've told him I'm not going to avoid going into certain rooms of my house because of what I might find (he didn't even bother to hide his stupid phone cards this time), and that I have no intention of avoiding asking questions that I feel like I deserve answers to because my asking angers him.
I was amazed last night, I did have the presence of mind to be able to step back and listen to what he was saying, and he was just all over the place with his rationalizations and distractions, trying to displace/transfer the focus from what he is chosing to do to my failings a person that "made" him do what hes doing, and how awful I was to him all those years (last night it was up from 10 bad years to all 25 years of our marriage, he was just the rebound guy)........It was interesting to observe that it really fuels his fire when I don't let him digress from the issue.
Wow, that is amazing how fast he can run right back to where he was. just blows me away.
Did this ever happen with your H when it looked like things were going so well?
I do need to bite my tongue though...when he went to call her this morning, I told him to tell "wonder woman" good morning for me.....later I asked him if wonder woman was having a good morning, he replied "how would I know" and I said well I'm sure she told you when you were on the phone" Childish adolescent sniping I know. at least I didnt call her a whore.
