Continuing Chronicles: Morphing into Red Hot Momma

[sage]

Ah, Deb, I'm sorry that h is still in contact with OW. His reaction is as expected (how "you'll never change") but it sounds like you handled it really, really well.

MHO is to go into "listening mode" -- I wouldn't actively pursue h with the topic nor would I be reactive to him but I'd listen as hard as I could to weed out the "truth" of what keeps drawing him to her from the BS that he's using to distract you (or distract himself?).

I note that you said he's "back with OW" -- can you temper that to say he's "back in contact" with her? Not saying that's acceptable or OK but it does leave some room and doesn't drive the both of you back into your polarized positions.

Here's to your strength and hard work and awesomeness!!!!!

Sage