I am so sorry that I missed your posts (ahem...semi-crazymaking ) about having doubts. You have gotten great advise here from everyone, as usual! And your last post has you heading in the right direction. Count your blessings, hon, always.
I am sure your H feels terrible guilt over what he has done. Each time you ask him for reassurance (but I am not so sure that it comes across that way) you are dredging up all that pain. He could come to resent you for it, associate you with the guilt.
I know that you do need the reassurance- anyone in your situation would. So why not experiment a little? Maybe your timing is off? Try asking for reassurance 1. in a different way and 2. at different times. Okay, for example (and thinking of my situation here) instead of asking my H if he is never going to leave me again ....I might say something like "what do you think about putting up a shed?" And I learned never to ask him such things when he is walking out the door. Also, I never call him back into the room after he has left it. He hates that.
I hope you see were I am going with this! My pain pills are making me silly . It is possible for you to get what you need without the direct questions and accusations. Hope this makes sense!
) about having doubts. You have gotten great advise here from everyone, as usual! And your last post has you heading in the right direction. Count your blessings, hon, always.
....I might say something like "what do you think about putting up a shed?" And I learned never to ask him such things when he is walking out the door. Also, I never call him back into the room after he has left it. He hates that.
. It is possible for you to get what you need without the direct questions and accusations. Hope this makes sense!
