I almost overlooked a big positive in all my anxiousness. H has started to sleep in just his undershorts so that we can snuggle "skin to skin". This is his own doing, although I commented once it was nice. He holds me A LOT in the night...this is new, within the last 2 - 3 months. I remember when I used to long for this. Now I often get woke up at night by him putting his arm around me and snuggling up against me or asking to do that or asking me to snuggle up to him. It's nice, I truely treasure it. A few months ago I would have never dared to hope that I could have this....so I guess anythings possible, and this is a big "anything" that I shouldnt overlook. Even last night I know I woke up 3 times with him holding me...maybe thats part of his frustration, maybe he feels like that should be enough reassurance.