Quote: I know what I am looking for - absolute proof that he is not lying. I am never going to get it. I decided not to ask again. I decided to focus on his actions. His actions are not of a man who is cheating. His actions are of a man who is trying to set things right. No he doesn't always do the right thing but he is trying.
I have been following your sitch and your H seems to be trying just as my h is.
I hadnt thought of this but you are right, his actions do seem to indicate that he's trying to make things right. I run into problems with not asking. Honestly for the most part I don't, but sometimes I just do need some reassurance. I'm trying to get past that, but after "stuffing" it for so long to get to this point, some times it just comes out, it seems.
And of the course, there's that part of me that way down deep thinks, "I've worked so hard and been so patient and understanding, the least he can do now is give me what I need".........hmmmmmmmm....therein lies much of the problem I believe. Frankly it does seem like the least he can do, and if he isn't willing to do that, why not? I have no clue of the answer to that one.
