I feel like you are off the coaster and maybe have switched over to the merry go round, fun for a while, but also slighly nauseating if you stay on too long.
Leave OW's D out of this, period. She needs your prayers and nothing more. But I do wonder what she wanted to say to you.
As for your H I am wondering if the "honeymoon" period of reconnection is over and you are falling back into old more mundane patterns.
Weren't you supposed to go away sometime in October?
I will repeat my mantra from earlier this summer : He is not going to leave you for OW.
Quite frankly I think that you might benefit from a little away time from H, too much togetherness can breed familiarity. Go away overnight with a gal pal and give H a chance to miss you.
Have you ever read the Mars Venus book? I highly recommend it and think that you would benefit from it.