Hi Deb! Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad that I helped you through that horrible period. As I said back then, I remembered how torn up and raw I felt in the beginning, and no "old timers" would post to my thread..not saying that I didn't make some GREAT newbie friends that I went through my ordeal with, (and still keep in touch with today)...I was so desperate to hear anything from someone who had been through it with success.. you sounded so much like me and your sitch was SO similar...well...we laughed about how our H's could have been long lost twins..lol.. I rarely post any more, but I could really "feel your pain"..lol. I'm glad my instinct to "jump back in" was correct.
As for my guys, they are doing great. My little guy is pretty much over his mono, but still has some "tired" days. His Ped said it could affect him for up to 8 months!
The hurricanes have been a nightmare. We have to replace our roof, and lost our privacy fence, and ended up with someones patio furniture in our pool (lol!..freebies ) and were without power after Frances for 5 horrid days (after the "rainy gray" passed, it was back to that good ole Florida 90 degree humid weather) and we were miserable. Thank God we had the pool so we could flush toilets!! lol. Unfortunately, we are right in the path for Jeanne. So..we repacked our hurricane kit tonight and we are ready for round 4. Gotta love it..lol. Actually, I can honestly say that when the lights went out, we actually spent some really fun hours playing cards, and talking. But when the winds picked up to over 70mph and the roof started comming off, it got pretty hairy.. H was very much in control. I felt safe. Thank you for thinking of me.
Quote: "because it looks like you're stuck with me"...
my H said this very same quote a lot too. Isn't it nice to hear? In my opinion, this is where your hard work starts. You MUST forgive him for OW. Meaning, it's ok to discuss it if he brings it up and opens up the floor for questions. My h did..said "ask any thing you want..we'll sit here all night if we have to." And I did. I asked every single question I could think of..and at that point (maybe a month from where you are now) I DID want to know all the gory details...NOT what the may have DONE to or with each other (I'm not THAT much of a glutton for punishment) ...but what it was ABOUT it, that was better, different, than what we had had. (I hope that makes sense). And then I dropped it. He has mentioned it again, and still does to this day. He will say "I will NEVER do that to you again. What a mess I caused". But I don't talk about HER anymore ever. I have to say, the first anniverisary of the "bomb" after we were doing ok, I had a bad week...too many memories popping up. But..I just had to tell myself to suck it up, and thinking about HER, only made her win..because I was STILL allowing her to screw up my marriage.
I am so proud of you! Enjoy your success. Trust me, at some point you will stop analyzing every little move he makes (looking for baby steps) and your life will lose that "surreal" feeling. (FINALLY!!) I'll keep checking on you.
Take Care you Red Hot Momma!!!
Bomb Nov 01 PA w/OW (lied for 10 yrs) Dumped OW/back home Nov 02 I became WAS:Feb 05 Reconciled:Oct 06 Current:Going strong, Still using DB techniques to KEEP it that way 10 years later!
) and were without power after Frances for 5 horrid days (after the "rainy gray" passed, it was back to that good ole Florida 90 degree humid weather) and we were miserable. Thank God we had the pool so we could flush toilets!! lol. Unfortunately, we are right in the path for Jeanne. So..we repacked our hurricane kit tonight and we are ready for round 4. Gotta love it..lol. Actually, I can honestly say that when the lights went out, we actually spent some really fun hours playing cards, and talking. But when the winds picked up to over 70mph and the roof started comming off, it got pretty hairy.. H was very much in control. I felt safe. Thank you for thinking of me. 
