"All generalizations are dangerous, even this one."
Alexandre Dumas (pere)
I think the reason that we lapse into generalizations on this board is that we are struggling to define what we mean by HD or LD. What does my LDH who is very uninhibited, likes porn and is likely to MB if he's not having sex with me regularly have in common with a LDW who shudders at the thought of a blow-job and is completely unfamiliar with her own genitalia and what do either of them have in common with a LDW who generally wants sex about once a week and is struggling in her relationship with an emotionally unavailable man who wants to have sex twice a day? What do any of their HD spouses have in common? If all we can say is the HD spouse is the one who wants more sex in the relationship, what is the point of this board? We have to search for similarities in our situations in order to help each other. There is no way that anything anyone has posted on this board proves that many LD spouses are lazy about working on their relationships. However, there is significant evidence on this board that many HD spouses at one time or another feel that their LD spouses are lazy about working on their relationships. Therefore, this information is vastly more useful for any LD people on the board than it is for the HD people except to the extent that it validates their feelings of frustration.
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