Quote: Do LDs really understand how unique and special sexual sharing is, or do they equate it with shopping together or working in the garden together?
hmmmm...I couldn't tell you at this stage of the game where I fit anymore on the continuum of sexual desire. But this statement intriques me. The uniqueness of sexual sharing occurs for me because of who I am doing it with. The presence of my H with me in whatever activity we are doing together makes it special. There is just an enhanced quality to it when he is there than if I'm alone or if it is with someone else. The fact that, because of social standards, I can "legitimately" do other things with other people doesn't eliminate the sense of "specialness" that doing them with him has for me. For me, it isn't the act of sex that creates that special feeling. It isn't the act of any other activity that creates that special feeling. He creates that feeling.
I have found that I can nurture that feeling and I can diminish that feeling by how I choose to think about him, what I decide to focus on, etc. But what we do together isn't what determines that special feeling.
Of course, I'll admit that it's easy for me. I married the best one out there and the rest of you are simply left with lesser beings.
