Quote: Actually the only thing I want to change about THIS bf is the sex. I really like just about every other thing about him.
Lillie...I can't help but notice that you are still focusing on changing him. YOU cannot ever change HIM, that's up to him. If he has an issue with sex that's definitely a problem housed within him that he's going to have to work on...let go of focusing on him.
I know you've been reading many of the posts on here so I'm sure that you've noticed that many of the people who have had success repairing their relationships or recovering their sex lives on this board have at some point realized that they had to make changes within themselves...which as a result gets the ball of change rolling.
By taking a close look at what you could be doing, conciously or not...by talking or by actions and then working on those things that you do have control over...you will initiate change.
Concentrate on yourself...stop trying to fix him, that's an exercise in futility. Believe me, I kept trying to fix/help my LDH (who never initiated sex with me, but kept telling me it wasn't me...he just never thought about it). This man is now finally beginning to come out of his shell now that I started working on me...I started changing, which meant he had two choices...jump ship because reacting to the changes I initate is too difficult for him...or decide he loves me enough to roll with the changes and see what happens...fortunatley for me I'm loved I'm sure you will find you are too
I'm sure you will find you are too 
