I also don't feel that the HD partner is out there trying to make the relationship better while the LD remains emotionally defensive. Having a high sex drive does not correlate with wanting emotional intimacy. I will go as far to say that often it's the LD partner who is looking for more emotional closeness, and is in some way "turned off" by their partner's more physical needs, which can be viewed as selfish. "Sex" becomes the issue rather than intimacy, partners become polarized, and no one is feeling adequately loved or cared for. It then breaks down to control and withholding patterns, distorted thoughts take hold, and the relationship deteriorates. The hope is that at some point one spouse will remember what "health" is and start the process to undo the mess.
