Corri said: --------------- Is the picture beginning to emerge here? ---------------
I think so. Here is what I am initially seeing.
Your husband is suffering from insecurity, jealousy, and a basic lack of confidence.
He can't equate your needs with his because you constantly complete/fix his failings.
Planning the trip. What you might consider the next time something comes up for him to perform (planning, whatever), that you let him fail. Do be willing to *help* cleanup after the mess, but under his instruction - don't take charge.
You are a very competent woman. He finds himself intimidated somewhat (possibly a lot) by you. You have to let him be the hero enough for him to be able to appreciate what you do for him. He obviously doesn't mind taking credit for your efforts. In a proper relationship, he would be bragging on your efforts and accomplishments, not claiming them for his own.
Again, he cann't see the extent of the communication problem in your relationship if you always bail him out.
Having said all that, I do realize that in a loving relationship, we do for each other because of love and desire. That effort has to be arrived at through some struggle however. We have to learn basic respect for each other. I know you are very boundary oriented. I think you need to shift a few at least temporarily until hubby can 'get it'. Just remember to do it in a loving way (I've no doubt that you would).
What do you think?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
