Corri, I need a little help with boundaries and I know that is your subject. I am mostly having success but the last time we ML, W manipulated me into doing what she wanted at "my expense" and I'm not sure how to deal with it. The story is that when we were first courting I gave her oral and during it she said "Please don't stop. Don't ever stop". So I didn't - ever. I have always put her pleasure way infront of mine. The trouble is that after the oral I am pretty wasted and even though she lets me enter her, often I have gone off the boil and can't O myself. After I had my vasectomy it has been so much easier for me to alternate a bit of oral with a bit of coitus and it has been really lovely (for both of us or so I thought). But last time when I paused my tongue to take my turn she said "No don't stop" so I carried on to her O. After that I had my turn but she had lost interest by then and I just gave up after a while. It feels so much better when we share the experience and O closer together. I need a way to set a boundary where I don't feel I have to take her all the way before my action but it's not an easy subject to broach. We aren't at the stage yet where we can talk easily about it. I'm concerned that I will be pushed into a fixed pattern that suits her but that I don't feel is "fair". Any ideas? SD
