Like I said ...I am probably making huge generalizations here.... just using my family ( 60 of us that live within 10 miles of each other) as my examples.
I think that most HDM bend over backwards to do everything in their power to make their wives happy, content etc . I have been told in the past that I should be out talking with the guys because I am always on their side. Even my own mother has said this!!
In my opinion... I just never could listen to the whining about taking care of the kids , house etc and then having my H come home and NEED my too!!! WELL DUH!!!! Of course they need you too....isnt that what marriage is about. Who came 1st the husband or the children. It to me is a priority thing..... When my H walks in the door from work he knows that I am there for him ( to listen , to hug whatever) . My S9 knows that when daddy comes home he gets 15 minutes to take off uniform and sit with mom and talk uninterrupted ...then the rest of the evening is up for grabs until bed time. All my children 22-9 know that when our bedroom door is shut/during non sleeping hours....unless they are bleeding or the house is on fire they do not disturb us. MOST of the time it is open.
I am rambling but.... again these are just my opinions.
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using sex as a reward is not the issue in most HD/LD marriages.
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If it isnt used as a reward then why is it that we as HD wives and husbands are even thinking about divorcing our spouses if they dont make some changes? I am including myself in this because those words have come out of my mouth during a heated moment of frustration.
HD spouse jumps through hoops to please LD spouse for exactly what EC and sex....right?
