I know you stated that this was just your opinion...and of course you are entitled to that But I would probably try to stay away from generalizations. I happen to agree that too many women do use sex as a weapon...but I wouldn't go so far as to generalize on it. Personally I do know far too many women do this and it really irks me to hear about it. My LDH has in the past had a pattern of selecting women who did use sex as a manipulation and it did quite a bit of damage to his ego/sexuality.
I have to agree with Corrie in the aspect that the lack of sex is often a symptom of a deeper problem. It's not that my LDH doesn't think I'm attractive/desireable; he has just become so used to being turned down and put down (not by me) that he doesn't even think about sex anymore. It's the old "use it or lose it" addage. He's become so accustomed to not having sex that he doesn't even think about asking for it...so it's always left up to me to initiate (and often get shot down). He's just now getting to the point that he will talk to me about sex and respond in some manner if I request it; whether it's telling me that he's simply too tired and that we can try again another time...or responding favorably.
In the past I'd get nothing, I'd be ignored...as if I never brought it up or that I wasn't even in the room. Did he ignore me to be cruel? No...he was (and still is) uncomfortable with making himself that vulnerable to me. Because of his past experiences he has major intimacy issues...which fortunately for me he's working on :-)
So I really do think that if you look deeper you'll see that there really is something else there besides sex. Take your friends who complain about their husbands...I imagine that if you were able to climb into their relationships you would see that there are needs not being met on both sides of the equation...it's not just that the hubbys aren't doing enough...I bet if you asked the hubbys...the wives are falling short somewhere too (nagging/complaining/not making him feel important, etc).
Meeting needs is something many of us are trying to learn how to do...and learning what the other persons needs are can be quite difficult...but once you pinpoint them and work harder to meet them, surprise, surprise! Your needs begin to be met as well (sexual or non).
But I would probably try to stay away from generalizations. I happen to agree that too many women do use sex as a weapon...but I wouldn't go so far as to generalize on it. Personally I do know far too many women do this and it really irks me to hear about it. My LDH has in the past had a pattern of selecting women who did use sex as a manipulation and it did quite a bit of damage to his ego/sexuality.
