Corri:
I'm happy for you that your H finally gave you some verbal affirmation. So, all it took was "I want to feel close to you"? If that's all it took, and the fact that he hasn't said something like that to you in "years," well then, girl, you and I would be doing the nasty every night if we were married.

I say that kind of stuff all the time, with no effect.

Hairdog