Quote: Is there an aching, longing present in me that I carry around with me? No. Hence, HD/LD.
Are you saying that there is NOTHING your H could do or say that would make you feel horny without actually being touched in a sexual way? You never just see his body or think about his hands on you and get horny? It's just hard for me to understand. To me that would be the equivalent of never wanting ice cream when you walk by the ice cream store or never craving chocolate if you haven't had some for a while etc..
If that is largely how my H feels and it's impossible for him to change, then I will have to give up on the fantasy that he may someday approach me with desire on a regular basis. This is a lot for me to give up in terms of sexual preference because aggressive male desire figures in most of my sexual fantasies. Will my H want to be married to a woman who is only semi-satisfied with a sex life in which she has to be the aggressive partner? Is wanting an aggressive sexual partner an unreasonable expectation, like wanting a sexual partner who looks like the Diet Pepsi guy? I think maybe my H does need to become more HD in order for me to be truly satisfied with our sex life. So the question is "Can someone become more HD?".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
