Quote: I understand the importance of the EC to you at moments like this. You did a good job of explaining it. But everything would depend on the nuances of voice and body language in this exchange. Just reading it cold, it makes me think of parents who prompt their kids in a rising inflection, "Now what do you say?" and then pat them on the head and give them the treat after they say, "please."
And I understand your view of this. But tell me. If you bf ups the frequency, will you merely take it as your due and move on? Where does that leave him?
Yes, reading it cold does make it sound the way you said. What you are not putting into the mix is the years of struggle that have gone before that give context to the situation at hand.
But beyond that, if a sentence is all I need to hear in order for him to get what he needs... how is that patronizing unless one choses to make it so?
EC is not only important to LDs. It is as important to HDs. We just express it in different manners. This is where those love languages come in. For the first time in years, my H spoke my LL. He made himself vulnerable to me and trusted that I would not let him fall. The fact that he made that effort alone put me in a place where there was NO WAY ON PLANET EARTH that I would let him down... I would see mountains moved, oceans drained, the heavens torn asunder before I would ever consider throwing that back in his face.
