Based on your posts in the past, I am assuming that you wanted him to say something about loving you and wanting to be close to you. The problem is you might have been asking him to be dishonest. While it is true that it is very difficult for a HD spouse to feel close to a spouse with whom they are not having sex, that doesn't mean that the only reason they want to have sex is to feel close to their spouse. His truthful answer to "Why?" might have been something like "Because your nouns look sexy adjective and that makes me want to verb your noun." or "Because I heard Paula Cole singing on the radio on my way home from work and I haven't thought about anything but verbing since then.". The fact that he asked for sex by saying "Let's do a quickie." makes me think that wanting to express his love for you wasn't his primary motivation for sex that evening.
Do you need for him to be primarily motivated by his feelings of attachment for you every time he wants to have sex? I'm really not trying to be judgemental here, I just think that perhaps you need to clarify your position on the matter. In order to be aroused, do you need to see every sexual encounter as "making love" as opposed to "f*cking"? Is a verbal expression of love and desire for emotional connection from your H the minimum that you need in order to see the encounter as "making love"?
I think by refusing to say what you want to hear, your H might be expressing his desire to "f*ck" rather than "make love" and also his frustration that it seems like you never want to "f*ck".
Is this issue so important to you that you are willing to put your marriage on the line?
I don't think this is necessarily a straight-forward HD/LD issue. My H would hate it if I said something to him like you want your H to say to you because it would make the encounter an emotionally big deal and therefore put more pressure on him. It's easier for him to be sexual if I keep it "light" and erotic.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
