Quote: But what I got was validation that I had been through some real stress, that it was perfectly normal and desirable for me to want to have regular sexual interaction with my bf, that it was perfectly normal for me to be hurt and put off by his unwillingness and deflection of the sexual issue.
the "V" word...I think that's what its all about. That's what these people are peddling...the Cs, and the books, like "SSM" and others. Either condition (HD or LD) will find "validation" in there...an ego stroke, if you will. might make you feel better in the short term, but does it really solve anything? plus, the other side's POV is just as valid. they NEEEED to not have sex, just as much as we NEEEED to have it.
I've never met anyone that was able to "fix" whatever their problem was through "counceling". a few years back, we spent HUGE sums of money (enough to quallify for a medical tax deduction) on a shrink that W just loved...she always felt great when she came home from a session. but nothing was ever solved. Since she's stopped working, and had the baby, there's no way we can afford this sort of thing anymore. insurance doesn't cover it...at east not this particular shrink. and she's right back where she started, IMO. So what is the point?
to top it off, it would be way out of my comfort zone to go airing dirty laundry to some stranger. I don't care what letters they tack on to the end of their name...the very thought of it just makes me {shudder}. the only reason I can do it here is because this is a completely anonymous venue.
