I'll tell you what's tough. I'm trying to change myself in such a way she will more likely want to get close to me. Many on the Board have suggested that W has other issues, and that may be the case, but I can't get her to spell them out, and she won't go to a C.
I realize in my own mind that one reason I want W to come with me to a C is that I want an authority figure to validate my POV. I know that's wrong, but I can't deny it. So I'm here spilling my guts to y'all.
To get back to MrsNOP, I really like her frankness. I know I'm the one with the problem now, in that I'm unhappy and W isn't. Perhaps there's a board where people could complain about HD spouses who are agressive and pushy in their attempts to foist sex on unwilling partners. I don't know if I could HOM there.
Michael Whiner, Author of the NYT bestseller, "The Sex-Stuffed Marriage."
