Quote Mrs NOP "...but if there were points of contention early in your relationship *even if they haven't come up in years*, if they were never addressed then they never went away. They may be just the thing that is disrupting your intimacy."
This is a very significant point. Loss of respect early on is probably the cause of a lot of SSMs - mine included.
ChocEyes - You won't make progress until you put the past behind you. SD
