Quote: When he arrived he held me by both shoulders to give me a kiss on the cheek, I feel very controlled in this way! I have to stop feeling irritated that the level of contact and affection always has to be set by H, and I am just the recipient!
Geez, LNL, that sounds romantic to me! Next best thing to someone taking your face in their hands and kissing you on the lips - very purposeful, not casual at all!
As for all the anger and irritability - depression, depression, depression. Especially in men, it often expresses itself less as tearfulness and sadness and more as anger and irritability. My H became almost like one of those "road rage" drivers, mad at everyone on the road, at everyone at his work, at the kids, etc. Amazing how it calmed down when his depression got treated, and returned when he went off his medications once.
The good thing? He DIDN'T direct it at you! That's huge, because we all know, in the beginning, WASs think WE are the cause of everything that irritates them. Sounds like he's unhappy with where he's put himself, but he's no longer blaming you for it. That's good!
