That's what I did, kept my expectations low and tried to keep my PMA high.
I would never say anything about OW 2, I never have done actually, this whole year. The only things I requested was that H not sleep in the same bed with D and OW 2 together, or bring OW 2 here to this house. He very stoutly defended OW 2 each time (telling me that D liked OW 2 very much etc, as if I was questionaing that, or that OW 2 just turned up in the rain... ), but I was not even attacking her as such, just telling H where MY boundaries were. But, I guess after all the defending of OW 2 that H has done, he has a lot of backtracking to do.
It was a farily uneventful evening and morning. H did not directly ask me anything much. He did a lot of talking about his work, and general affairs. I would say he is still a very aggressive and angry person, though not, it appears, towards me.
For instance, the country we live in is a 'joke'.
The guy that supposedly felt uncomfortable in my presence due to my lack of language skills and who now comes to my house for cooking lessons, is, according to H, a 'pimp'. Not a nice guy at all.
His landlord gets on his nerves.
His flat in the hills is no good.
He rants and rages quite a bit. Not exactly in his nicest frame of mind these days. Nothing is his fault, it is always something wrong with others.
When he arrived he held me by both shoulders to give me a kiss on the cheek, I feel very controlled in this way! I have to stop feeling irritated that the level of contact and affection always has to be set by H, and I am just the recipient!
Some positives -
H didn't say anything negative about or to me directly. He thanked me for letting him stay the night. He cooked pancakes for breakfast. He kissed me goodbye. He behaved as if he were quite at home in this house, helping himself to stuff from the fridge etc. (Is this a positive?? )
More later
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
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