I am just journalling here, recalling how the lunch date went.
I remembered the perfume, but it was a bit chilly to show off my cleavage, so I dressed well, showing off my somewhat slimmer and toned figure, I hope!
I picked up D from school and headed into town on my bike. When we met H, he greeted me with a kiss on the cheek and commented that my dark hair suited me better. I have started colouring my hair the last few months, and each time I come out of the hairdresser's with a new shade. I like this dark shade as it is closest to my natural colour. I am glad H noticed it!
We then had a drink at a bar before moving on to lunch. We ate at our favourite eating place, where the staff know us very well from being regular customers over the years. H and D had entered first, and I entered a moment later, I could see the head waiter's eyes widen as he took in the fact that H and I were lunching together, for the first time (only the three of us as family) since the separation. Head waiter looked pleased!
We had a pretty uneventful lunch. H mostly talked away. He didn't ask a single question about myself, apart from how many cooking classes a week I was doing. He didn't mention my mother, or ask how I was, or ask about my work, or enquire about my trip or about my sister. He showed me his newest piece of equipment, talked about people (common friends) he had recently met, and his recent trip to another country to meet his work friend, the one I wrote to to tell that I still loved my H, as I felt he was a friend of our marriage.
At one point I casually asked why he was down in the city, and he said it was to see D. Well, I am sure he was pleased to see her, but if I know my H, it was NOT the primary reason he came down, NO WAY!! She is going up to stay with him for four days just day after tomorrow! Just don't know what the reason might be though. He mentioned looking at fares for his trip to my country of origin, but I know he wouldn't have come down merely to enquire, without purchasing a ticket. It's a lot of trouble for just that.
At one point he received a message on his cell phone. Makes me think he is still with OW 2. Normally before he didn't send and receive text messages.
H plans to have D up with him for the long weekend this weekend, over Halloween. He mentioned getting a pumpkin to make a pumpkin lantern, which also leads me to believe that OW 2 is still in the picture, as he has never got involved with anything like that in his life before. Never decorated the Christmas tree, wrapped a present, cut a lantern, even "forgot" to be the tooth fairy when he was larking around with OW 1 and I was away just before the bomb.
To sum up, H was friendly enough, mostly talked about his new purchase - he is always as excited as a kid with a new toy with new purchases - but kept his distance with me.
At the end, he paid for the meal and I thanked him.
Observations -
He is the same old H in so many ways -
Is very into "toys" although he uses them for his personal work. Needs to get a buzz from a new purchase every so often.
Opinionated and arrogant!
Makes wide generalisations and sweeping statements which make me blush.
Made no mention of his plans to move to the nearby town.
Doesn't seem that certain about going on his trip to my country still. I would have thought he would have booked his ticket by now, his trip is only a month away and is a long haul flight where he needs to get a good deal.
Displays his characteristic impulsiveness and fickleness - says he will NEVER do such and such one month, then a couple of months later says he has changed his mind, and does it. (I suppose his statement that he will "never live with me again" could be equally subject to revision! )
We ate at one of our old stomping grounds, and H was willing to be seen "together" with me there. He refused to come out to my country of origin this summer for fear of setting tongues wagging about us getting together, he doesn't see this lunch in the same light, or else doesn't mind us being seen togther??
So while on the one hand it is tempting to think that I am once again being used as a ferrying service for D, I guess I should make the most of it, get some DBing in, let H see the new me, such as it is, and maybe even p*ss off OW 2 if she is still in the picture!
Any thoughts?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
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