Thanks for your suggestions. Maybe I am being paranoid for nothing, but I feel I should at least be prepared for that question. I will keep any answer vague and about me and how I feel, not about him.
I was very busy the last two days. We were away all day yesterday. This morning I listened to two voice messages from H, asking us to get in touch with him so he could speak to D. We only got hold of him this evening. After chatting with D he told me he was coming down for the day on Wednesday and we could have lunch together (must be coming down without OW?) I said OK!
Then H also talked about how next weekend is Halloween, and D wants to be with her friends. She has not mentioned anything about Halloween to me. H says, of course I want her up here, or at least, I want to see her, but I am not sure how to plan this. He seemed to me to perhaps be wanting an invite to come down and stay over. I just listened to his explanation, as I couldn't think far enough ahead. Said I would get back to him about it. I stayed pleasant.
Then we talked about his new piece of equipment at some length, and we also talked about D's swimming lessons last year, and some other concerns. All very pleasant and civil. We must have talked for a good ten to fifteen minutes, a record for the past few months.
I really need to practice my listening and validating skills. I have been very amused to see the dynamics of my relationship with my sister these past few weeks. We have our various flashpoints, but we both know that our R is too precious to throw away over some tiff or the other. One thing I can say is, it is SOOOOO TRUE that often the thing we love to loudly point out as a fault in others is a big failing in ourselves, and we are so blind to this! It is amusing when we see this happening in others, but what about in ourselves?
Well, got get to bed and get some sleep.
Will update further when I have more energy.
Thanks all for the input
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
