sorry to hear of your loss
just lost my g-ma who was mom to me after my mom died when i was 15
as for his asking "what did you get" - aarrgghh but you are most likely right
he's doing the vulture thing to see if he can use that against you
you can tell him a couple of things to drop the subject
it takes awhile for all the probate stuff to be tended to
tell him that well you really don't know with probate stuff going on
tell him that you'd really rather not talk about it right now
mention a few of her "bills" that need to be tended to
that'll give him the impression that it won't be much when the "inheritance" comes thru
but each time he brings it up i'd change the subject
he's not a part of the family right now
so it's really none of his business at this time
if he comes to his senses & comes home, i'd still not tell him
I do agree that your sis means well for you & only wants your pain to end
It's hard to hear them say just move on
but it's painful for them to see us in pain like we are
I know I've been dealing with this for over 2 yrs now
oct 11th 2002 was bomb drop day for me
& byron's been bouncing back & forth ever since
until last month when i finlly couldn't take it any more
now he's on the couch & we're hardly talking
stopped dbing nicely & haven't been able to go back yet
i just want time & space to myself away from him & his drama
after reading love must be tough by dobson i cut off sex
after all this isn't really a marriage as it's suppose to be
just wish that i could get the break from him so he could "miss" me
i'm trying to get him get the cars into order so he doesn't have to be here
it's so hard having him here on the couch & barely talking
i kinda envy you in that your husband at least talks to you
& offers to take you out to lunch even if it's unclear as to his motives
so take heart there's always someone who's in worse shape than you
this may be the begining of the end for me
we'll see how it plays out over the next few months
byron's up to something, just don't know what at this point
if we make it to new years maybe then i'll have some real hope
in the mean time i'm trying to just be ok with having a roommate
& starting intense counseling over the next few weeks for me
