My deepest sympathys to you and your family on the loss of your mother.
I want to let you know how much I admire your strength in this time of great soorow and stress.
I hope you have read or can get access to the book "Divorce Remedy" if you haven't already read it. there is a section in there on dealing with relatives and friends who just want you to "get it over with" and :move on with your life". In an effort to take away your pain, they try and help you by telling you to move on, but you are the only one who can say when you are ready or not to do that. They mean well and only say this to spare you from pain but they are not you and you have to make any decision about what you want for your marriage.
I wish you peace and serenity in the next few days and weeks as you go through this journey.
The bboard is a wonderful place to come for support and comfort. Please take time to give to yourself what you need right now.
