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Why didn't you just stop after his first "she's done all her maths and languages" ??? ...Soup



Good question Soup!

I suppose the obvious answer is that since D had been with him the whole weekend and was coming home really at the last minute, I was anxious for her to have done all her homework. She had done two of the five books, from what I could tell from my convo with H. D is behind somewhat in her schoolwork, and I'm keen that she not fall behind any further, rather, that she make up lost ground.

But of course, it came across as nagging. I will try and stop.

There has been no contact from H today, so far. I just sent him a one line email with a photo.

D tells me that H is talking about giving up smoking gradually, which is kind of interesting. Both OW smoke and I hate it.

H mentioned in our convo yesterday something he remembered me saying years ago, so I guess he hasn't forgotten me completely!

I know I need to put him under NO PRESSURE at the moment. One way of doing this would be to land some decent well paid work, so the finacial pressure would ease off of him. I feel that would make a BIG difference to him and how he felt about me.

But I am also wondering how much contact I should initiate right now - a little, or just leave it all up to him?

I am keeping well away from R talk.

H already knows that -

I am standing for our marriage
I am looking for more work
I support his project idea

So I don't need to din it in to him any more.

Any other ideas at this juncture?

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates