Forgiveness - Relieving a Burden

[Livnlearn]

Hello people, and my helpful friends -

Yesterday H rang once more to say the time of D's arrival had changed, the landlord and family never know from one moment to the next when they are going to leave! D came home all happy and prancing, she willingly sat down and finished the bits of homework still needing to be done, which was not much. She mentioned camping. At one point, she started to say, "did you know....?" but somehow the conversation got steered away in another direction by circumstances. I think she may have started to talk about OW 2.

Later H called again, to talk to D. I'm not sure what about. Then he talked to me for a minute, told me he liked the tent, again! I sounded normal and happy on the phone.

This morning there's an email from H. Here is the gist -

H is SORRY about the tone of his email. He is angry at OW 2 as much as me. Feels under pressure from all sides.

Yes, he got the book, and has been reading it. (Then talks about his project.)

Ends with "Cheers, and love to D"

Hey everyone, it really is true, when you validate and don't exert any pressure back, they have nothing to carry on the offensive with!

Now, I just have to make sure there is NO PRESSURE from my side. He knows what I think about his sleeping arrangements, I will not mention them again. (He can hear and read!!)

I will offer moral support and validate him in his project plans.

I will not pursue him, but keep things light and friendly, without being insistent.

I will not focus on H's "bad points", but keep in mind his good points.

Is there something I have missed?

Livnlearn