Thanks, your points have been noted! D is nine and doesn't yet finish her homework on her own initiative most times. But I am working on it. She gets all upset just before having to go to school when she knows she still has something left to do, and I have started to talk to her about her being ultimately responsible for it.
H gives me the talk about being concerned for D yet shows very little evidence of it.
Anyway, I can see he is in exactly the same mode/mood he was in this time last year when OW 1 dumped him, only last year I didn't know it had happened until a little later, so I took it all personally!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates