Quote: I will say here in this forum that whatever is going on between H and OW is not your fault. Ity sounds like another case of him trying to blame you for things that are his fault and not yours. And if H and OW are having a convo about their R you can be darn sure that your "restrictions" are not the only thing that have been discussed between them. H is prob choosing the one thing that she said about you and choosing to make that the whole focus.
I have analysed this tendancy we all have, to a greater or lesser extent, to blame someone or something for our 'misfortunes'. I often catch myself trying to find something/someone to blame for my own shortcomings. I am learning to take responsibility for my choices, and much of life is about choices - even down to how one chooses to 'feel' or react to things.
I am screening calls, and H called this morning and left a message about D's return being later than planned. He sounded OK. Also got an email about it. He mentions spending the night in the tent, and says he had forgotten what a good tent it is. Neutral email, no ranting.
I am thinking about how to respond to his earlier email. I think H needs some reasurance on the financial front. I will try to validate his feelings when I can, and I will simply ignore the more outrageous stuff. Is that a good approach?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
