There have been several things in your posts of late that remind me of myself.
Quote: Anyway, today I was talking about myself and about things I have done and know about, and it struck me that I have done quite a lot, I am NOT just a waste of space, and never have been! H's speeches to me at bomb time drove my self-esteem right into the ground.
I know just how you feel. Sometimes I have to remind myself that everyone but H thinks that I am wonderful. I am smart; I graduated with very high marks from a very prestigious university. I am pretty, and no I cannot compete with the 26 year old OW, but I don't care to either. Like I tell H she isn't 1/2 the woman that I am. But there is nothing like your H choosing another woman over you to give your self esteem a thorough thrashing.
You my friend seem to be doing a wonderful job being a good listener. It was a big change for me to just validate H's thinking, finally realizing that I didn't have to agrree with what he said, just validate it. My C calls that "hearing H's heart."
I am glad that you got to have that long convo. Keep up the good work. One day at a time, one tiny baby step...
