Any advice on how to DB while not allowing oneself to be walked all over when discussing financial arrangements?
I emailed H this morning, a fairly bright and breezy post. H replied, but stuck to his main point about wanting to pay less. When I mention other things, like how D needs more help (from him) with her homework and things like that, he doesn't ever address those issues.
H wants me to agree to less payment from a specific date. I am sort of scrabbling around for work whenever I can get it. It is NOT stable work, with any guarantees. What is even "FAIR" in this situation? I don't know any more. It is his interests against mine. My one aim in all this was not to rock D's boat - keep her life as stable as before, just continuing on. Same school, same house, same friends etc etc. Maybe that is unrealistic.
I asked if he would help me blow up balloons for D's party, and he said he would be in other city until just before the party. However, if he came back in time, he would, he just couldn't promise anything (from past experience, this means, very unlikely!!!). I do feel H does just what he pleases, and takes what he needs from others and hang the rest. I mean, this is HIS D's party. Let's see if I can get him to help me clear up afterwards!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
