After yesterday's speech, here's my first opportunity to demonstrate my new frame of mind. I would appreciate any thoughts from you about what to do.
Yesterday, I emailed H with an invite to D's party (a copy of the one she sent to her friends, which we had designed on the computer) and asked H if he could make it. He had mentioned in passing last week that he would see if he could come. The party is one evening next week, straight after school.
I got a reply back saying he would love to be at the party, but unless he can make arrangements to stay somewhere in the city, he won't be able to attend. Then says, anyway, I will take D out for lunch again from school that day.
My natural instinct, as all of you who have been following this thread will know, is to just say, well, come and stay the night here. I don't know if this is advisable.
One reason is that after he stayed here and he brought OW 2 as well, I vowed then he wouldn't stay here again, and especially not when I wasn't here. I have definitely made a decision not to lay myself open to humiliation from H.
He also mentions taking D out to lunch and not inviting me, which leads me to believe he is coming down to the city with OW 2. He has been hounding me for a lunch date, and now he has completely dropped it.
Also, I don't want to appear pursuing. It would be nice for H to attend his D's party, so if I invited him he might consider coming down on his own and spending the night, I suppose.
What do you think?
Hey Soup - I can guess you will say to invite him, and have no expectations, and don't take any negative answer personally, right? Ellie?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
