Thank you..... I am just worried that if HE thinks he is a bad lover and this is what some of his LD problem is then I must not be showing him rather than telling him that I think is is great.
He bases whether he is good or not on whether I have an O or not. I told him that there are times when I dont necessarily want to have an "O" during sex...I would rather have the spontaneous sweep me off my feet unprepared sex where it is all about him first and then take care of me .
He used the example that his feeling that He is not good is the same as my feeling that I am overweight etc. In that I dont "believe" him when he says that I am perfect the way I am. His analogy was poor in my opinion and I explained why.
I said that I dont let how I feel about what I see in my mirror everyday affect our marriage. I do not hide my body from him...I sleep naked, I wear sexy clothes and I enjoy ML to him with lights on or off.
He is letting how he feels affect us by withholding sex from me..because HE doesn't think he is good enough at it??? Hope you understood all that I know I was kind of all over the place SOrry
