When I was much younger, my PG W's big belly kind of turned me off. Now that I am older, a big PG belly looks good on a healthy woman. Some boys take a little too long to grow in to men. That was me and I suspect other guys could have the same growth process.
When your H is much older, maybe he might think he made a mistake in the past (Sept 2004) and finally realised he missed out on some really good times being with you.
So good to read your posts. I appreciate your PMA. And take the pictures for your H and you to remeber these times.
I hope you have a good weekend and your big belly turns into little Hank or Magdalene before we hear from you again.
P.S. I have a horrible habit of continuously suggesting names to pregnant women. I have one nephew named Vinnie and one named Augie because of this tendency.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Mojo, You will NOT believe this but Vincent and August(us?) are both choices that my H is angling for. (there I go again with the preposition, HD)
Isn't that odd??
I said no way to Vinnie but am considering August(us). So unless you are my MIL calling every day saying, Have you thought of a name yet? it doesn't bother me. Very little does!
Honey, hanging in there with no signs of impending labor.
P.S. Lou, H is 37. When can I expect him to think that I was truly a hot momma while PG and he was just a dumbarse for not appreciating the perks?
I woke up when I was secure in my mind that I could provide for my family. Not worried about how to pay for everything. I did the fast palm to the forehead when I was about to be a grandpa.
My problem was that I came from a poor family, always saw people strugling to pay bills and never had much as a kid. Family moved 6 times in 1955 because things were not going to well. Also, I do not rember being praised for doing anything except for mowing a coulle of really old widdows lawns when I was 15.
After I was married I never was secure in my belief that I was a good fininacial provider, or knew how to be a good parent. I did not beat my W or the kids, so I new I was not a bad person. I did not make as much money as the neighbors did where I decided to move.
When I bought the house we are still in (1974), the bank suggested I was spending too much (%of income)for housing. I told them I do not ever want a car loan, do not spend much for entertainment, and always have a fulltime and a partime jobs.
Well, after I have made it, ( house paid off, retirement funded, kids through college, grandkids here) I can see that I should have had more confidence when I was younger.
Back to Mr. HP. I hope he has more confidence in his and your situation. I suspect it will take less time for him to sharply move palm of hand to forehead and have an "Ah ha Moment."
I wish I could have some of those "hot momma" moments back.
Lou, I see a lot of my H in your description. Perhaps he will have a lot of handslap moments himself in the future.
We are not poor but, well, you know how it is..living off one salary is a difficult thing to do these days. (or ever!) We live a very modest and frugal lifestyle--and I actually prefer it that way--and I know that H's confidence isn't the greatest. He has low self esteem anyway, but the fact that we struggle financially eats him alive, I'm sure. I'll say this: It bothers him a LOT more than it bothers me.
Thanks for the response. It helps to illuminate things for me and see a different side of H that I normally wouldn't even think about.
Quote: I hope you have a good weekend and your big belly turns into little Hank or Magdalene before we hear from you again.
P.S. I have a horrible habit of continuously suggesting names to pregnant women. I have one nephew named Vinnie and one named Augie because of this tendency.
Mojo, what you have is a fixation on "Hank". First there was the fnatasy Hank with the arm muscles. Then Hank was scarfing cookies. And now you're trying to name HP's potential son Hank. So what's with the Hank thing anyway?
You know how children have imaginary playmates? Well, for many years I have had an imaginary lover named Hank. He has seen me through many hard times in my SSM. I chose the name Hank because it just seems very solidly dependably masculine to me. I've never given him a face. He is just a square chest and biceps, frequently dressed in worn flannel. I've never actually fantasized about having sex with him. He is just sort of waiting around hoping that I'll dump my H so that he can build me a conservatory or chop some wood for a fire to cuddle in front of or grow a fantasy penis and put it to good use.
Am I pathetic or what? I'm as bad as all the guys with their 20 year old college girl fantasies.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
H and I had a good weekend. On Saturday night he offered to give me a hj, although in true LDH form, his words were so ambiguous that I didn't realize that it was just for me until halfway through the experience, lol! I asked him if he would like me to touch him and he said Yes but it took me TEN MINUTES of stimulation to get him hard. Yikes, this is a guy who gets hard at the drop of my pajamas. I told him "I never thought I would say this, but I am SO looking forward to feeling your erection poke me in the back or leg, etc. I'm really missing seeing one that occurs naturally that I don't have to work for!" He laughed and agreed with me.
(for the record, I looove getting poked with the erection, but 80% of the time it is just that--a poke in the back, and off to dreamland..frustrating!:)
So we had sex and I don't think he came. I didn't ask cause at that point I really didn't care, which is SO uncharacteristic of me. But, really, I am so done with trying to compensate for the fact that I am fat and pg. There is nothing I can do about it and at 41 weeks, I am sick of trying. If he can't get it up or finish, then I appreciate the effort and I Love You and hopefully this will be all over soon. There was a part of me, too, that was thinking, Hey if he didn't finish then maybe he will want to again tomorrow! LOL
Which he did. It actually went much better; he was semi-hard this time (this is the FIRST time in our marriage that I have ever had to deal with him not getting hard..most of the time he is perfectly hard but just won't act on that lovely erection) and did finish, so it was all good.
The only thing I cannot figure out about our ML lately is that he has totally changed his technique. Now, we have been together for 10 years. WHY would somebody change their technique after all this time, especially when it's been so astronomically successful? This is just baffling to me! He has been touching me with the roughest touch and lightning fast. Which I like when I am about to come but not when we are first starting out for goodness sakes. Which he knows. I have no idea what to make of this. I bet I've told him that last 5 encounters "Slow down, softer please, ouch not so hard, whoa STOP for a second that hurts" etc! You all know me...I am not timid about saying what is on my mind, although I do say it in a nice way. He inevitably apologizes and tries to do better. My H would not hurt me intentionally for the world. I am absolutely certain that there is not one ounce of passive aggressiveness going on where he is resentful of having to ML to me so he does it purposely rough. That is just not his style. We are very open with each other and he would just flat out refuse to ML at all, if that were the case, and I know that.
Also, when I am having an O, he has started to 'freeze' his hand movements and just stop moving. I have no idea why! He asked a few months ago if it got too "intense" for me and I said sometimes, not often, but you will know cause I will sorta move my body away from your hand momentarily. He asked if he should stop moving his fingers, I said no. He asked what if he stops too soon and I am not finished; I replied that I would continue to move my body against his fingers and he would know to resume things. He seemed satisfied with these answers.
Now he is totally changing his technique and driving me crazy! My word, I wait at least a week to ML to him and when we do he is tryin out all these new manuevers that I don't like and have told him to knock it off! I know I sound frustrated or mad but I'm not. Just sitting here shaking my head and thinking, What is going ON with him? He knows my body better than I do and has always been such an exemplary lover...absolutely the best at oral that I've ever encountered, stamina out the wazoo (NOP I think he could beat you on the push up position indefinitely, LOL!), knows exactly how and when to touch me.... and now this total disconnect and uncertainty of my body.
The only thing I can think of is that the feel of my cl!t has changed, due to increased blood flow, and he is unsure how to touch me. Who knows!
My question is to the guys: Why would a man hear from his partner "Softer, please" and keep forgetting? He has NEVER done this before. There are of course many times that he gets too carried away and is touching me in the way that HE wants to be touched, so I'm not really talking about those times...this is more while we are ML and he is just doing some bizarre 80's rock band guitarist motion on my squeezy bits and I don't understand it. Picture the guy down on one knee, attacking his guitar, sweat and long moussed-up hair flying everywhere and you will get a picture of the strength with which he has been touching me. I suppose I just don't understand what he is not hearing when I say 'that is too hard for me, please touch me softer'.
Oh and I should say that I do not particularly enjoy tender lovemaking. I prefer it hard and somewhat rough. I don't care for slow movements, etc.
Well as I was typing all of this out, I think I may have solved my own mystery. I think that he thinks that it will all be over in a quicker fashion if he does it harder and faster, since that is how I like him to move inside me. Hmmm. He's just trying to rush things along! That's ok, I really do appreciate the fact that he is making the effort in the first place and I told him that last night; that I was amazed at how awesome this pregnancy has been compared to the last two.
Well thanks for reading, even though my mystery turned out to be not so mysterious. I wish he understood that I am like a fine wine--you can rush me and open the bottle quicker, but if you just give it the proper amount of time to age, you won't regret it. And honestly, we are probably talking about 10 minutes here. But perhaps he is having a tremendously hard time staying in the moment and 10 minutes might seem like an eternity to him. But cripes, if he'd just listen to me it really WOULD go a lot faster! Ah well, let's just hope he ditches his new rock star moves and goes back to my regular H after babe is here.
I think you might be right about him just wanting to be quick. He might have been worrying about losing his erection at the sight of "big belly" and therefore he switched over to his own personal style of "bunny-humping".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
