MM wrote:
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This is my dilemma. How can I trust my H to be there for me when circumstances are such that I can't be strong and confident? I suppose you could say that I was strong because I already got through some things on my own, but the fact of the matter is that it really s*cked.
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I remember this coming up in another of your threads.

Have you ever told him what these actions did to you? How they made you feel? Has he apologized for what he didn't do?

You know how I feel about this kind of behavior, and there is no excuse for it. Also, it is not a high drive, low drive, male or female issue, it is a human issue.

I don't recall if you have spoken to him about these incidents, if not, you need to clearly spell out how he failed and then ask him for the reason he failed. I would also want to know how he was going to prevent this from reoccurring.

A failure to provide basic support for a loved one is an issue that needs immediate attention, possibly professional. His actions where completely disrespectful.

Having said that, his actions were likely from confusion rather than malice or a lack of care. Regardless, he needs to face up to what he has done and have a plan to prevent a similar incident the next time it comes up.

I put this kind of neglect, intentional or not, at the same level as an affair. There needs to be an accounting and a plan of prevention for the future.

Off my soap box now.

Hang in there MM.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.