I once thought this might a possibility w/ my W too. I now am pretty confident that it is not the case. Still it is scary to think someone you married could be harboring these feelings.

HP, did she elaborate on it at all? One of the things I like about this BB is the generous LD's who post their thoughts here (thanks Corri). It would be interesting and valuable to learn more of why she has these feelings, how their relationship is etc. Is this MrHP's sister or is it your brother's W? (I think you might have said but I dont recall).