Quote: Her and I ended up getting into a conversation in which she revealed that her H would probably want sex that night and she couldn't help it..she felt rage and nausea at the thought of it. I said, Nausea?? She replied that the sight of him nauseated her most of the time. I tried not to personalize this (and jump to conclusions about H) so I said very little. She knows that I am HD and that I do NOT get this type of thinking at all. I just tried to empathize with her that having those sorts of feelings about your spouse would indeed be very hard to deal with.
Oh, wow! The thought that my wife could actually feel this way about me scares me to death. Think about the position your SIL is in. She can't tell her H this. But she has to. How can they ever achieve any kind of intimacy if she can't disclose this, if they can't explore from where this feeling comes?
The most troubling aspect of my situation is that I can't even get my wife to talk about it. I have to face the possibility that it is because she is harboring feelings that she can't disclose to me.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
