It sounds to me like he is afraid to initiate. I'll bet the tossing and turning and generally making a ruckus is his 'lighting a candle'. Very strange way of doing it, but I'll bet that's what it was. I've done similar before when I was very horny but had been shot down enough times that I was gun shy and was afraid to attempt another initiation. Maybe you need to call him on that behavior, tell him that you suspect it may be his way of telling you he's horny but all it does for you is turn you off and that perhaps he ought to find another way to signal his horniness.
OK,OK, maybe I'm way off the mark, but your comments make this ring true to me, and I think you at least feel it subconciously.
PS remind him the due date clock is ticking and theatrics that put it off to the next day might just well put it off for the next 4-6 weeks.
--GGB, once known for stupid theatrics when W didn't read his mind too.
