For my H, sleep is just sleep. Him falling asleep has NO message other than, Oops I just fell asleep again.
I do believe it is hereditary. I have seen his father fall asleep sitting up on a sofa with a room full of people talking, time and time again. H jokes that his dad did this the entire time they were growing up. It would get dark outside and bam, his dad was asleep no matter what else was going on. (H is one of five siblings, 3 boys, so there was always a lot going on)
I used to think it was funny and amusing but I have trouble with that anymore.
When I am not preg it is SO much better. He still falls asleep but his motivation to stay awake is much stronger because he is actually turned on by me. We had a nice time last night and he was indeed horny for me for the second night in a row which hasn't happened in a while. I am trying to enjoy these last few times and I do appreciate the efforts he goes to.
He told me last night that, as he came, he was holding on to one of my thighs w/ one hand and my breast with the other and he was able to forget that I am an "alien" to him (sexually) for a while and so it was really good for him. The position we were in minimized my belly so I suppose this one will be a keeper til baby is here!
Journey, Frequency was not our problem prior to me getting pregnant. So I know that once this baby is out of my body, he will go back to a decent frequency. We have always had more issues than just frequency but at least that will take care of itself. When I am having sex 4+ nights per week, I am much less inclined to get pissy over him falling asleep, though it still doesn't make me feel sexy at that moment!
Wish me luck in getting through the next couple weeks. I really need to hold it together and appreciate what H has done for me this pregnancy and concentrate on baby getting here safely.
